On Sex & Donuts by Alyx of Chicago

An easily Googleable girlfriend since 2011. Writing about intimacy, connection, vulnerability, and self-authorship. My website is home to my private mailing list and my evergreen blog.

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Don't take sex so seriously.

Alyx Confidential, Vol. 1 - What the average man can do to improve in bed.
Oct 23, 2025 • Alyx of Chicago
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The return of the stolen hour.

How one niche luxury brand has adapted to customer behavior.
May 29 • Alyx of Chicago
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Tension is the greatest aphrodisiac.

On flirtation, anticipation, and the eroticism of restraint.
May 6 • Alyx of Chicago
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When something real ends.

On connection, containment, and grieving a relationship that was never meant to last.
Apr 19 • Alyx of Chicago
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Taking testosterone as a woman makes me stronger, hotter… and pleasantly dangerous.

On strength, libido, and loving life in my forties.
Apr 16
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Suck at something else this weekend.

Embrace imperfection and be kind to your brain.
Mar 13 • Alyx of Chicago
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He calls me Magdalena

On sacredness, sexuality, and one recovering Catholic’s desire.
Feb 28 • Alyx of Chicago
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The luxury of doing nothing.

Celebrating 1,000 readers with a manifesto.
Feb 18 • Alyx of Chicago
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