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The Softening
Musings on Modern Love by a therapist & hopeless romantic
By Amy June
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What datings apps got wrong & how to navigate the terrain of online dating
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notes on the (worthwhile) slog of self compassion.
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The Softening
Musings on Modern Love by a therapist & hopeless romantic